Yes—asking guests for cash instead of physical gifts is generally acceptable, but requiring a minimum amount is considered poor etiquette.Emily Post’s wedding-gift guidance says couples may let guests know that cash is preferred, but they should not dictate what guests must give. Likewise, there is no universal “correct” wedding-gift amount; guests should consider their own budget and relationship with the couple.
A tactful approach is:
“Your presence at our wedding is the greatest gift. If you would like to give something, we would be grateful for a contribution toward our honeymoon/home fund. Please give only what feels comfortable to you.”
That communicates the preference without turning a gift into an obligation or setting a price of admission.
Interestingly, asking for cash itself has become quite common: The Knot reports that 75% of couples in its 2026 registry study asked for cash.
So the distinction is simple: “Cash would be appreciated” = polite. “Minimum cash gift: $X” = likely to feel demanding or tacky.
